M doesn’t stand for maid


I have developed this new saying around the house, “I am your mom, not your maid.” And I mean that. I do not care to do the motherly duties of a stay at home mom. I cook, clean, do laundry, run errands, fix a sippy cup, pay bills, keep all of the scheduling straight, grocery shop, fix a sippy cup, plan a weekly menu, home school, sign up for extra curricular activities, fix a sippy cup, and take the kids anywhere they need to be anytime. I remind the kids about the animals needing cared for. I remind {aka harp} my husband of what he needs to do 😉  That is all fine. But I will be darned if I am going to walk behind my 5 kids {6 if we count Matt} all day and pick up behind them. That’s ridiculous.

Just today for instance I told one of the boys to pick up those nerf bullets. He goes around picking them up. I then tell him when he is done to take his clothes upstairs. So what does he do? He throws one of the bullets with the suction towards the fridge, it bounces off and lands on the floor. He walks away to get his clothes. Aaaaggghhh!!!! So I may have raised my voice a little, as I questioned if he seriously just did that. I mean really….you were in the middle of picking them up, threw one on the ground and left it!!! I asked him if he thought that maybe this is the reason they are all over the floor!!!

A bit later this morning one of the kids, says “but you like to clean” Um, no. I like a clean house, not to clean. If we could afford to have a maid, I would in  heartbeat. But since that isn’t in our budget, I clean. But that doesn’t mean I am the maid. I will love these kids, raise these kids, guide them, direct them but I am not going to wait on them hand and foot. That will cause them to be unappreciative adults. Said child then said, but I don’t like to clean…haha me either. But I don’t expect things to just be done for me. You have to do what needs to be done. You can’t sit around all day expecting things to be handed to you. That’s not life. That’s not reality. And maybe in some kids world it is. Maybe I am too hard on my kids and have them do too much. But I don’t think it is too much to ask a child to put their dirty dishes in the dishwasher. Or pick up their toys. Put away the clothes that I washed, dried, and folded. Wipe down the sink they use. Clean up the dinner dishes, the dinner I planned, shopped for, and cooked. Vacuum occasionally. Put away what they get out. I think that teaches responsibility. And they don’t need rewards for that….that’s part of being a family. And I think kids today need that. Look at some of the young adults that don’t know how to survive in the real world. The ones who have graduated college and still live at home. Young adults who still have a mom cleaning their home or doing their laundry. I guarantee their mom became their maid!

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