Why does it have to be so hard?

Parenting is hard. Being a mother is hard. Being a dad is hard. Being a child is hard. Being a single parent is hard. In every situation there are different circumstances that make it difficult. Just yesterday my 2 year old cried hysterically for 20 minutes over a toy truck. He wanted the sounds on, but didn’t like the “roar” sound and when the truck became a monster. So I turned off the sounds, he cried it was “broken” So I turned it back on, he screamed a high pitch shrill scream every time it roared which was like every 2 seconds! So eventually I just put the toy away….no more truck. Well that led to another reason for him to scream and cry. It was hard.

A friend of mine called me asking if I knew anything about a certain toy line. She wanted to know more about it before she spent the money that it would cost to get a good little set up going. At first I was so distracted by said 2 year olds fit that I said that I had never heard of this toy. Then I realized that yes, I had, my kids had played with them. Within this conversation the friend addressed what she was concerned about, was the toy worth the money, would she even play with them, would she pick the velvet like skin off the toys, and so on. I do the exact same thing when making a decision for my kids. I drown myself with worry, confusion, reviews, opinions, and second guessing. Seriously, look at the energy wasted over a toy? And we all know what will happen with any toy we buy our kids. 1 it’s favored for a few weeks then tossed aside or 2. it’s “accidentally” vacuumed if it’s small enough….. Why as mother’s do we consume ourselves with worry? And self doubt? Seriously!!! It’s exhausting.

Then  I have friends who are facing tough circumstances. Decisions that need to be made that are really hard. Ones that will affect themselves and their children for the rest of their lives. Not just which toy is best, which school to send the kids to, but major life changing decisions. The kinds that will send the kids down a path of destruction or the road to success. And on top of the tough decisions many of the choices are out of their hands. It has to follow protocol. It has to be in time. When services are available. When it is deemed necessary. When the system sees fit. Is that when it’s too late? How long do these parents have to sit around and wait on the hard times to pass. For the waves to stop pulling them under. When they no longer feel like they are drowning. When can they finally breathe again.

While thinking about all of this I realized that really none of us have any real control. It is all in God’s hands. And no, that doesn’t give immediate relief to the anxiety. God never said it was going to be easy, he never said that life wasn’t hard. All he promised is that he would be with us when things are hard. God promised to stay faithful through everything. Lamentations 3:22-23 remind us of this: “Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning; GREAT is your faithfulness” And 2 Timothy 2:13 also reminds us even when we are doubting God’s faithfulness he remains faithful. Is it ok to be discouraged and down during these hard times, of course. That’s human nature, but instead of giving into our flesh, give into God. Remember his faithfulness. As my pastor reminded me, When you are being tried, you’re being tested. When you are being tested you are trusted. Trust in God and his faithfulness especially in the hard times.

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